Anisette Studio

Meet Thomas Nunes, the love of my life!

Thomas changed everything for me. We began as the very best of friends. We liked and loved the same things, had the same interests, and we talked about anything and everything like two tight friends do. Somewhere in the beginning we learned to love each other for who we each were.

I was at the end of one relationship as I was wrapping up my degree. I was not looking to be in any relationship. I had met Thomas when I was manning an opening for my Gallery Management Class first year of three years at USM. He was very much the gentleman that day. I did think “Now why couldn’t I have met someone like him!” I saw more of Thomas and talked with him a lot over the next three years, we became a group of six other older students, Thomas was the only guy and a great friend for all of us, I did not see myself as an exception until the very last where a situation occurred that brought how we really felt about one another came to light. I won’t share it here. Only that it was a great surprise that I could love again after years of protecting myself. Love is something that requires respect and trust in the other person, and efforts to show love, and honor one another. Such things did not happen within my first marriage. I was thinking “me and our kids!” Maybe a dog or cats. I thought at first an art degree would mean it would be a job for me____ No, as it takes a lot more effort to have an art related job than it would a business degree. Life was a nightmare for a while as divorce often is.

Then, there was Thomas who listened and supported me. In time I let go of enough hurt. We dated. Then I moved in. But wait, the big moment for me is when Thomas walked over to me, put his hands on each side of my face and said, “I love who you are!” That is all I had ever wanted was to be loved for who I am. And he did, he showed me how much every day we were together! He said things with purpose, and we grew a rare bond where it was like being one person. “One to be two, two to be one.” This is what we would tell each other as that is how it felt. Tom was a special man. He had never married. He said he had felt that there was someone special out there, and one day he would meet her. When I saw the movie Avatar I saw what it felt like to be connected to Thomas. It was an electric feeling. A bond that grew deeper. When Thomas died, I needed to loosen our bond so to move forward. I gave myself a year to just be and accept his physical self was gone. I concluded after that year that I had been so well loved I would always be okay! Thomas will always be a part of me. I have told him to make a contract where we are together again, a good life where we love and live together for a full life. Where we can do good for others together.

Thomas always gave me this thumbs up! You got this! Go for it! I always see him in my mind when I move into a new project. I got the thumbs up for deciding to sell our home and move closer to my oldest daughter.

I miss the conversations we had. I miss doing things with Thomas. I am glad that he is no longer suffering from health issues.

Best wishes! Pejj Nunes