Anisette Studio

Muddy Brook Cottage Pejj Nunes 2/15/2024

Good mourning! Coffee at the right. A sunny day today! Just love Sunny days! The ground is snow covered and the sky is blue.

“I cannot be your legs, your thoughts, your mind____ when you have those of your own____ I cannot be your breath, your hands, your fears, or your worries.

I cannot be responsible for what you say or think or are____ for to try to take away your independence would also rob you of your right development, your full right to be a person____ and though I want to help you where I can____ it is my duty to stand back and allow you to put your feet down____ to let you have the experience of being responsible____ for the greatest help sometimes is in just letting someone be. I opened Joyce Hifler’s book “Pathways” today.

In reflection, as a mother of three I had come to these same thoughts. It is letting go and watchful process mothers do. Sometimes the situation is very complex, such as with divorce, where anger and hurt cloud everything. Or when others interject themselves into things, where they have no real right to be. Not understanding the complexity, they bring into things. Whatever we say or do has the potential to trigger thoughts, which turn into actions by all who are searching for their own answers. The problem in part is life experiences, if your old or young you may or may not have had a particular experience to learn from, and there you are.

So many things come into play when it comes to supporting another person. Having a disinterested interest helps. This means simply to be a good listener, help through support, but allow the person to learn their own life lessons. And yes, it is hard when you care, and love. However, we need to learn our own lessons for them to mean something to us. If someone else is always fixing things for us, we do not know how to take care of ourselves. We wait for someone else. Our judgements are not as good or strong as they would be if we had learned our own lessons. I think that all one can really do is drop pearls of wisdom from their own experiences. Rather than tell another what to do.

Well, on with the day! The manual I am writing has to be worked more. I have day to day tasks to do as well. There are things to pick up and put away things in a studio. Clear the now not used, and then you can bring out the next materials, mediums, etc. My evenings are for new art. Not Shibui but pastel paintings. My promise to myself was I would do new things.

Best wishes! Pejj